Friendship — what is it?
February 22, 2021
Friendship. How often do we
pronounce this word, absolutely
without thinking about its deep meaning? But the concept of
"friendship" is very ancient, it goes back to ancient times.
Legends and legends were formed about friendship, on the example of which many generations were brought up. Friendship was sung and sung by poets, films are made about it, songs are composed about it, it is carried through the whole life by those to whom it is given from above.
What is it?
Friendship is a selfless
personal relationship between people based on common interests and interests, on mutual respect. This
is how Wikipedia describes this concept.
But I do not want to
talk about friendship in the dry language of sensible dictionaries. I want to
write poems about real friendship, sing about it. After all, this is not just
mutual trust, affection, and spending time together. This is a certain state of
mind, an inner connection that unites hearts and souls, a desire to empathize and support each other. Very often, friends are bound
by deeper ties than blood kinship.
By and large, friendship is one of the manifestations of love.
There is an opinion that
the strongest friendship comes from childhood. Often, having made friends in
kindergarten or at school, friends carry these relationships through their
entire lives, proudly telling their children and grandchildren about them.
In fact, age does not matter at all if an invisible thread is stretched from heart to heart,
connecting
kindred spirits.
Who can you call a friend?
A friend, as Wikipedia
explains — is a twin, a comrade, a named brother, but not a blood relative.
A friend can be called a
person who understands that friendship is a round-the-clock concept. Only a friend
is ready at any time of the day or night to pick up the phone, listen or rush
to help, without demanding anything in return. Like in a good children's song:
There are friends and for the Friends don't have days off!
A friend is a person you can rely on, who will never let you down or betray you.
To be friends is not to live a friend's life instead. To be friends is to always be close
Why do we need friendship?
Is it possible to do without
friends? For most people, no. No wonder people say that friendship gives strength, confidence, cleanses the soul. With anyone, like
with a friend, over a cup of delicious tea or aromatic coffee, you can discuss
your problems, share your innermost thoughts and dreams, and sometimes just be
silent together.
Most people do not accept loneliness, and in modern society, it is impossible to completely isolate yourself from society, to close in your shell. Even the most closed person has at least one person whom he can call a friend.
When a person has one true friend, he is already fabulously rich. Even the great Cicero said that neither water nor fire we do not use as often as friendship. And they also say that there are not many friends.
Why does this happen,
why do people need friends? It's very simple. Every person needs someone's attention,
support, and care. To whom, if not to a friend or girlfriend, can you entrust
your innermost thoughts and secrets, with whom else can you discuss the
circumstances and events taking place in life? What could be better than a
boyfriend or girlfriend who can sincerely enjoy the success and achievements,
sympathize with the grief, and give wise counsel?
What is true friendship made of?
In fact, true friendship
can not be decomposed into components, squeezed into templates or frames.
It is multi-faceted and
individual, and in each case has its own system of connections and
relationships.
But there are still some
fundamental components of friendship. This:
- Trust
and respect
- Emotional
connection and mutual assistance
- Consistency
and lack of competition
- Self-sacrifice
and honesty
- Fostering
positive qualities
- Selflessness
and faith in friendship
What spoils a friendship?
Unfortunately, in our
time of far-fetched standards, true friendship is increasingly becoming a real
luxury. Maintaining
a friendship is an art, but it's pretty easy to ruin a relationship. Such
qualities as envy, cunning, excessive curiosity, and the use of a friend for
selfish purposes can not only spoil friendly relations but also sow enmity
between friends.
Envy
There is nothing worse
for friendship than envy. This vice is often fatal to both parties. Envy can
push the
envious person to any meanness, treachery, to deceit.
Guile
If a friend is capable
of deceit for the sake of his own selfish goals — a penny is a price of such
a friendship.
It simply has no future, because sooner or later the secret becomes clear, and
then comes the disappointment and pain of losing a loved one.
Excessive curiosity
Even the closest friend has the right to small secrets, to his own line, beyond which no one has the right to cross. When the excessive curiosity of a loved one becomes too intrusive, it can cause irritation.
If there is too much curiosity, the irritation
can turn into dislike. And this is the first step towards cooling the relationship.
Using a friend for personal gain
And this is the hardest
test for friendship. What could be more terrible than being disappointed in a friend who uses the trust of a loved one for
his own selfish purposes?
How does friendship differ from love?
There is a very fine
line between friendship and love. Friendship is even sometimes called
"non-sexual marriage".
Naturally, friends do not marry in the literal sense of the word, but all other
components, except sexual ones, are present in both friendship and love. This
is mutual support, help, loyalty, interest
in each other, constancy, joint pastime. True,
in marriage, all this is much more, but in friendship-it is better and more
interesting.
How does friendship differ from camaraderie?
Comrades are not
friends, they are a circle of friends whose communication is reduced to a
common worldview or a common view of some things. Such people can be united by
interests, by a joint business, or by work.
Camaraderie can often
precede friendship.
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